All you wonderful people who wished me Happy Bday? I love you. Your comments made my day and when you hear about my birthday, you'll know I needed it. So thank you from the bottom of my heart.
edit. so i took this post down because, while it did me good to get it off my chest and vent, im done and dont want to even remember it.
Love,
Veronica
Showing posts with label Manners. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Manners. Show all posts
Friday, August 13, 2010
Thursday, July 1, 2010
Wedding Frustration
As you read this title, you may think "What?! Who hates weddings?" It would seem a little weird to hate them seeing that I had one. I should make it clear that I don't actually hate weddings. In fact, I'd say that I've enjoyed almost every wedding that I've gone to. As Veronica would say, "I love love" and I absolutely adore watching friends and families who are in amazing relationships get married. However, one thing that I get frustrated with are people who care more about "their wedding" than "getting married”.
When I got married, I would be lying if I said I wasn't excited to wear a pretty white dress and dance the night away or that I didn’t squeal when someone bought us our ice cream maker, but what really mattered to me was having my family and friends celebrate with us. Knowing how expensive weddings can be, we tried really hard to make it affordable for our guests. We held the wedding at the time when it would be cheapest to travel where we live. We blocked hotel rooms at several different priced hotels. We had a registry with gifts in all price ranges. Every RSVP that said "yes" was exciting and a surprise. I am really grateful when other friends and families do the same.
Now, I’d never tell someone how to throw their wedding. If you want to get married in Paris, that’s awesome and I’m sure it will be gorgeous. If you want to register for a $500 slow cooker, fantastic! I bet you’ll make some delicious lemon chicken in it and I’ll likely ask you for the recipe. However, I have trouble when people expect me to “find a way” to attend these weddings. And I really hate that I feel guilty when I don’t go.
I've noticed that this has become a trend among a lot of people that I know. In fact, one girl said "I want MY WEDDING to be what I WANT and I don't care, people HAVE to come. They will find the money and deal with it." Um...why should I have to "deal"? By "deal" with it, do you mean that I can skip your wedding and not buy a gift? Because I really don’t feel like getting a new credit card so I can go. Going to weddings can be expensive, I totally get it. However, I think that people sometimes forget that their wedding may not be the #1 priority to all of their guests.
Recently I was invited to a friend’s wedding. When I got the Save the Date card, I was all prepped to go. However, as I started looking into the details of the day, I was a bit...shocked. It's a destination wedding. There are no blocked hotel rooms and the cheapest room in the area is $250/night. Nothing on the registry is under $100. At the end of the day this wedding will cost me $1000. I hate admitting it, but as dollar signs were running through my head, I thought "I'm not going." And I’m scared to send back the RSVP card because I know she’s going to be pissed.
Maybe I should blame WEtv and Bridezillas...except that Bridezillas can be extremely entertaining.
Love,
Betty
When I got married, I would be lying if I said I wasn't excited to wear a pretty white dress and dance the night away or that I didn’t squeal when someone bought us our ice cream maker, but what really mattered to me was having my family and friends celebrate with us. Knowing how expensive weddings can be, we tried really hard to make it affordable for our guests. We held the wedding at the time when it would be cheapest to travel where we live. We blocked hotel rooms at several different priced hotels. We had a registry with gifts in all price ranges. Every RSVP that said "yes" was exciting and a surprise. I am really grateful when other friends and families do the same.
Now, I’d never tell someone how to throw their wedding. If you want to get married in Paris, that’s awesome and I’m sure it will be gorgeous. If you want to register for a $500 slow cooker, fantastic! I bet you’ll make some delicious lemon chicken in it and I’ll likely ask you for the recipe. However, I have trouble when people expect me to “find a way” to attend these weddings. And I really hate that I feel guilty when I don’t go.
I've noticed that this has become a trend among a lot of people that I know. In fact, one girl said "I want MY WEDDING to be what I WANT and I don't care, people HAVE to come. They will find the money and deal with it." Um...why should I have to "deal"? By "deal" with it, do you mean that I can skip your wedding and not buy a gift? Because I really don’t feel like getting a new credit card so I can go. Going to weddings can be expensive, I totally get it. However, I think that people sometimes forget that their wedding may not be the #1 priority to all of their guests.
Recently I was invited to a friend’s wedding. When I got the Save the Date card, I was all prepped to go. However, as I started looking into the details of the day, I was a bit...shocked. It's a destination wedding. There are no blocked hotel rooms and the cheapest room in the area is $250/night. Nothing on the registry is under $100. At the end of the day this wedding will cost me $1000. I hate admitting it, but as dollar signs were running through my head, I thought "I'm not going." And I’m scared to send back the RSVP card because I know she’s going to be pissed.
Maybe I should blame WEtv and Bridezillas...except that Bridezillas can be extremely entertaining.
Love,
Betty
Wednesday, June 23, 2010
Bill, you were just licking blood out of my head. I don't think it gets much more personal than that
Hello darlings,
Sooooo I realize that some people might think this blog is a serious blog about being bitter and mean and that we sit around with voodoo dolls and pins and a bottle of tequila. Well, you'd be wrong. About the voodoo dolls, not alcohol.
But seriously, this blog is about venting and that's it. Things are annoying in everyday life but at the end of the day, it's better to write it out and forget it then hold it in. It's not targeted towards bloggers at all but real life shit that it annoying or sucks. It's better to be snarky and laugh then to hold it in or be fake.
The only thing I'm serious about is how much I love me some Eric Northman. Or about chocolate. I'm pretty serious about chocolate. and puppies. and the Jersey Shore. and Law & Order SVU marathons but I digress...
As my Dad days, "hate is a strong word, use strongly dislike" but that doesn't roll off the tongue...or keyboard as easy.
Bottom line is 20sb bloggers are fabulous and that's one thing I can say we completely love with no shame. That's right the "we hate" girls love us some 20sb. Bloggers everywhere talking about anything and everything is amazing. We love that in the blogosphere there is room for everyone. We are all different and that's what makes it so unique. That's right I'm looking at you LiLu, Dshan, AnydyGirl, Maxie, Ben, Doni, Katelin, Nicole, and so many others!
Now I'm off to youtube 80's tv shows, 90's boybands (again), and cute panda videos.
Love,
Veronica
Sooooo I realize that some people might think this blog is a serious blog about being bitter and mean and that we sit around with voodoo dolls and pins and a bottle of tequila. Well, you'd be wrong. About the voodoo dolls, not alcohol.
But seriously, this blog is about venting and that's it. Things are annoying in everyday life but at the end of the day, it's better to write it out and forget it then hold it in. It's not targeted towards bloggers at all but real life shit that it annoying or sucks. It's better to be snarky and laugh then to hold it in or be fake.
The only thing I'm serious about is how much I love me some Eric Northman. Or about chocolate. I'm pretty serious about chocolate. and puppies. and the Jersey Shore. and Law & Order SVU marathons but I digress...
As my Dad days, "hate is a strong word, use strongly dislike" but that doesn't roll off the tongue...or keyboard as easy.
Bottom line is 20sb bloggers are fabulous and that's one thing I can say we completely love with no shame. That's right the "we hate" girls love us some 20sb. Bloggers everywhere talking about anything and everything is amazing. We love that in the blogosphere there is room for everyone. We are all different and that's what makes it so unique. That's right I'm looking at you LiLu, Dshan, AnydyGirl, Maxie, Ben, Doni, Katelin, Nicole, and so many others!
Now I'm off to youtube 80's tv shows, 90's boybands (again), and cute panda videos.
Love,
Veronica
Thursday, June 10, 2010
This is my dance space, this is your dance space...
Tonight I went to a dance class at my gym. While I don't love going to the gym, I really look forward to the dance classes they offer. However, I don't look forward to some of the people in my class. It's not everyone, maybe half of the class. So 50% of my gym dance classes - I hate you.
The problems start out before the class even starts. These classes at my gym are really popular and definitely fill up. The gym decided that members need to sign in at the front desk when they arrive if they want to take the class so they can make sure that the room isn't over capacity. In a class that has a lot of jumping/turning/arms flying, significant space is essential. However, people seem to think that they are above this policy and walk right past the desk into the dance room. Today I signed in 10 minutes before class started and only 1/4 of the list was full. However, walking into the room I saw that only a few more people could fit. And you know that 15 more people showed up before class started and another showed up halfway through the class. Fellow dancers - you are not above the policy. Trust me, you will benefit by following the rules. Don't think I'm afraid to talk to the manager if there are too many people in there. I will.
Next, there is the issue of where people stand. Today a guy in the class was well over 6 feet tall. First, I will give props to this guy - men tend to stay away from dance classes which is a shame because it's a killer workout. However, he decided to stand in the front row right in front of the instructor. I'm short - I couldn't see past him. I'm sure he's aware that he's tall - be a little considerate of the shorter people in the class and move to the right or left.
While we're on the topic of where people stand, classmates - please don't stand next to me if it will only leave 6 inches of space when there is a much roomier spot somewhere else in the classroom. I should start by saying that I have a dancing background. I pick up steps really quickly and I do them full out for the entire class. I don't expect everyone to be able to do this - the steps are tough and fast and it can be really hard to catch on. I fully support these people coming to class. However, if you can't pick up the steps, or even better, step to the right each time the instructor says "step to the left", leave adequate space. Patrick Swayze said it best in Dirty Dancing: "This is my dance space. This is your dance space. I don't go into yours. You don't go into mine."
Finally, as cute as some of your clothes may (or may not) be when you're walking down the street, it doesn't mean that they are appropriate for a dance class. If your long sleeve shirt has long, dangling pieces of fabric with beads attached, please don't wear it to class. When you turn and flap your arms, it may end up hurting someone. For example, you may hit me...on my left arm...and leave a painful red mark. Not ok. And if you do hit me, please apologize.
In conclusion, please think for 2 seconds before going to dance class. And maybe just stay a little further away from me.
Love,
Betty
The problems start out before the class even starts. These classes at my gym are really popular and definitely fill up. The gym decided that members need to sign in at the front desk when they arrive if they want to take the class so they can make sure that the room isn't over capacity. In a class that has a lot of jumping/turning/arms flying, significant space is essential. However, people seem to think that they are above this policy and walk right past the desk into the dance room. Today I signed in 10 minutes before class started and only 1/4 of the list was full. However, walking into the room I saw that only a few more people could fit. And you know that 15 more people showed up before class started and another showed up halfway through the class. Fellow dancers - you are not above the policy. Trust me, you will benefit by following the rules. Don't think I'm afraid to talk to the manager if there are too many people in there. I will.
Next, there is the issue of where people stand. Today a guy in the class was well over 6 feet tall. First, I will give props to this guy - men tend to stay away from dance classes which is a shame because it's a killer workout. However, he decided to stand in the front row right in front of the instructor. I'm short - I couldn't see past him. I'm sure he's aware that he's tall - be a little considerate of the shorter people in the class and move to the right or left.
While we're on the topic of where people stand, classmates - please don't stand next to me if it will only leave 6 inches of space when there is a much roomier spot somewhere else in the classroom. I should start by saying that I have a dancing background. I pick up steps really quickly and I do them full out for the entire class. I don't expect everyone to be able to do this - the steps are tough and fast and it can be really hard to catch on. I fully support these people coming to class. However, if you can't pick up the steps, or even better, step to the right each time the instructor says "step to the left", leave adequate space. Patrick Swayze said it best in Dirty Dancing: "This is my dance space. This is your dance space. I don't go into yours. You don't go into mine."
Finally, as cute as some of your clothes may (or may not) be when you're walking down the street, it doesn't mean that they are appropriate for a dance class. If your long sleeve shirt has long, dangling pieces of fabric with beads attached, please don't wear it to class. When you turn and flap your arms, it may end up hurting someone. For example, you may hit me...on my left arm...and leave a painful red mark. Not ok. And if you do hit me, please apologize.
In conclusion, please think for 2 seconds before going to dance class. And maybe just stay a little further away from me.
Love,
Betty
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